The goal of life is to be successful AND happy at work AND at home.
Short of this, there is neither success, nor happiness.”
– Dr. John Schinnerer
The goal of life is to be successful AND happy at work AND at home. Short of this, there is neither success, nor happiness.”
– Dr. John Schinnerer
Learn proven tools to perform at your peak from the boardroom to the bedroom.
Dr. John Schinnerer (“Shin-er-er”) is the coach for you if…
- you grew up thinking that to be a man meant you’re invulnerable, unfeeling, self-reliant, a team of one, a good provider, stoic, silent, and only as good as your last success.
- somewhere along the way, you lost your confidence, mojo or swagger.
- most of your conversations at home end in arguments or with a resentful “Yes, dear.”
- you can count the number of times in the past 6 months you’ve had sex (with your spouse) on one hand.
- you are spending extra time away from home because your home life is unpleasant, tense or volatile.
- you want to rediscover the passion, happiness, and ease you had with your spouse years ago.
- you feel like you are just going through the motions.
- you do not routinely feel pride, joy, excitement, relaxation, awesome, contentment and love.
- your spouse would describe you as irritable, distant, defensive or disconnected.
- you have achieved success at work but still feel unfulfilled, numb or unhappy.
- your climb up the corporate ladder has stalled.
- you struggle inspiring and leading your team at work.
- your command and control leadership style isn’t as effective as you’d hoped.
“How we are socialized as men impacts everything we do. Yet, how we are socialized is not our fault. However, it is our responsibility to learn new tools to be at our best in all our relationships.”
-Dr. John
Hi, I’m Dr. John and I am so glad you found your way here today.
It’s no accident you’re here. If you’re anything like me, you learned at a young age how to wear masks – masks to save face, to hide how you feel, to stave off embarrassment, to show no pain, to portray invulnerability, coolness and omnipotence. Perhaps you’ve also realized that these masks have kept you from living an authentic, happy, inspiring, purposeful and connected life. After 50 years of trial and error and studying with the best teachers in the world, I’ve condensed these learnings into a simple process which I can teach to you for greater success and happiness at work and at home. The framework is easy – success and happiness have to do with The 4 Pillars of Relationships:
- Relationship to Self
- Relationship to Others
- Relationship to Work
- Relationship to Something Larger Than Self
Build a Foundation of Awareness – Positive Present
Tools: Mindfulness, attentional training.
Realistic Optimism – Positive Present
Tools: Realistic optimism, mindfulness, savoring, nonjudgmentalness.
Develop a Positive Future
Tools: Best possible you exercise, Ideal self exercise, identifying top values.
Learn to Manage Negative Emotions
Tools: Mindset training, cognitive reframing, forgiveness training, perspective training, realistic optimism training, stress management, anger management, challenge negative thoughts, quiet the “annoying roommate” in your head, sympathetic vs. parasympathetic nervous systems.
Cultivate More Frequent Positive Emotions
Tools: Savoring, 3 levels of gratitude, compassion, self-compassion, metta, awareness of hope, awe, curiosity, pride, joy, love, contentment, mudita, nachos, schadenfreude, and more.
Improve Communication Skills
Tools: Appropriate assertiveness, slow startup, requests vs. complaints vs. criticisms, capitalizing, bids for attention, peak performance word, effective arguing, repair attempts, Four Horsemen, small things often, two types of conversation, turning towards vs. turning away, relational heroism, the language of appreciation and more.
Manage People More Effectively
Tools: Effective story-telling using emotions to build rapport, empathy, vulnerability, relaxation techniques, slow startup, languages of appreciation, focus on the positive, holding employees accountable with compassion, staying calm in heated conversations.
Contact Dr. John
Clients come to me because they want positive, sustainable change — at home and at work. You need happiness, purpose, and satisfaction at home AND at work for a truly contented and satisfying life.
Give me a call at (925) 575-0258 or email DrJohn {@} GuideToSelf.com to discover your peak performance and greater happiness.