by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 12, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Relationships & Communication
You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 1, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
To my love: I’ve started and stopped writing this letter more times than I can count. Every time I try to find the words, I get scared—scared of saying too much, of being too much. But silence has only ever made the ache louder, and I don’t want to keep hiding what’s...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 24, 2025 | Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication
By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net My Dearest Love, There are words I should have spoken long ago—words buried in the quiet spaces between us. I know that in those silences, my emotional distance may have made you question your value. And...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 1, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Men's Mental Fitness, Relationships & Communication, Self-Leadership & Inner Work
What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 29, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Stress & Burnout
Stress vs. Overwhelm vs. Burnout: What’s The Difference? Ah, burnout—when your soul starts buffering and never quite loads. Burnout isn’t just being tired. It’s a full-body, full-mind, full-spirit crash-and-burn brought on by chronic stress, often from work,...
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