by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 12, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Relationships & Communication
You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 1, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
To my love: I’ve started and stopped writing this letter more times than I can count. Every time I try to find the words, I get scared—scared of saying too much, of being too much. But silence has only ever made the ache louder, and I don’t want to keep hiding what’s...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 24, 2025 | Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication
By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net My Dearest Love, There are words I should have spoken long ago—words buried in the quiet spaces between us. I know that in those silences, my emotional distance may have made you question your value. And...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 1, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Men's Mental Fitness, Relationships & Communication, Self-Leadership & Inner Work
What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 29, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Stress & Burnout
Stress vs. Overwhelm vs. Burnout: What’s The Difference? Ah, burnout—when your soul starts buffering and never quite loads. Burnout isn’t just being tired. It’s a full-body, full-mind, full-spirit crash-and-burn brought on by chronic stress, often from work,...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 28, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
Top 10 Podcasts Every Woman Over 35 Should Be Listening To Something shifts after 35. Maybe it’s the subtle (or not-so-subtle) realization that life is speeding up—or that you’ve been living parts of it on autopilot. Maybe your kids are growing, your relationships are...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 28, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
Top 10 Podcasts for Navigating Love and Relationships in 2025 (Without Losing Your Mind) Let’s be real: Love is beautiful, messy, confusing, exhilarating—and occasionally makes you want to hide under the covers until further notice. Whether you’re in a long-term...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 28, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity
Top 10 Podcasts Every Man Should Be Listening To (Unless You Enjoy Being Emotionally Constipated) Or, The Top Podcasts for Men Let’s face it — your brain is a hot mess of thoughts, your emotional intelligence was last seen somewhere around 9th grade health class, and...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 27, 2025 | Emotional Intelligence, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication
Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com ...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 26, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication
Let’s talk about dudes. Manfolk. Bros. Gentlemen. Kings. Whatever you call yourself, chances are, if you were born with a Y chromosome and grew up on this planet, you got stuffed into The Man Box before you could spell “testosterone.” I’ve been working with men for...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 21, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication, Stress & Burnout
“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | LoveIsntEnough.net You ever feel like you’re faking it? Like you’re showing up to the world in some Frankenstein...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 18, 2025 | Self-Leadership & Inner Work
By Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | GuideToSelf.com | JoreeRose.com | MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com Alright, you beautiful recovering doormat—you made it to Part 3 of how to stop being a people pleaser. Gold star for you! In Part 1,...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 18, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Self-Leadership & Inner Work
By Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net | GuideToSelf.com | JoreeRose.com Welcome back, brave soul. Here is how you can stop being a people pleaser! If you survived Part 1, where we sliced open the people pleasing beast and poked at its guts (a.k.a. crappy...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 18, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Self-Leadership & Inner Work
By Dr. John Schinnerer How to stop being a people pleaser! Let’s be real –: people pleasing is emotional self-sabotage disguised as kindness. You think you’re being generous. You think you’re the “good guy” (or girl). But underneath all that agreeable surface is...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 18, 2025 | Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication, Stress & Burnout
Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 15, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Relationships & Communication
By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Let’s cut to the truth—anger is killing your relationships, realtionships at work and at home, and in many cases, it’s doing so quietly and consistently. Unchecked anger is the...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 8, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Relationships & Communication
Dr. John Schinnerer Jealousy in a relationship is like a smoke alarm—meant to signal danger, but sometimes it just goes off because you burned the toast. It’s not always about what’s actually happening; it’s often about fear, insecurity, or old emotional baggage...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 6, 2025 | Relationships & Communication, Stress & Burnout
By Dr. John Schinnerer I survived a difficult divorce. I have eight years of training in mental health. I coach men in the best ways to survive divorce and thrive following divorce. So, in many ways, I am uniquely qualified to put forth some critical tips to help you...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 4, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Men's Mental Fitness
Dr. John Schinnerer, Guide To Self Depression is the world’s worst houseguest. It shows up uninvited, eats all your emotional snacks, drains your energy, steals what you once enjoyed and then whispers, “You’ll never feel better again, loser.” Oh, and it tries to...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 2, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Men's Mental Fitness
By Dr. John Schinnerer, Host of The Evolved Caveman Podcast Let’s be honest: A lot of young men today are lost—like “took a wrong turn at puberty and now stranded somewhere between apathy and rage with no Wi-Fi” lost. What we’re witnessing isn’t just teenage angst...
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