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How Do You Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally?

by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 1, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Men's Mental Fitness, Relationships & Communication, Self-Leadership & Inner Work

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

What Are Bids for Attention and Why Do They Matter in Relationships?

by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 27, 2025 | Emotional Intelligence, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood coach and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

What Is the Man Box and Why Does It Make Men Emotionally Unavailable?

by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 26, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication

Let’s talk about dudes. Manfolk. Bros. Gentlemen. Kings. Whatever you call yourself, chances are, if you were born with a Y chromosome and grew up on this planet, you got stuffed into The Man Box before you could spell “testosterone.” I’ve been working with men for...

What Is Authentic Masculinity? Why Every Man Is Hiding Behind a Mask

by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 21, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication, Stress & Burnout

“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | LoveIsntEnough.net  You ever feel like you’re faking it? Like you’re showing up to the world in some Frankenstein...

What Do Older Men Wish They Knew by Age 30? 20+ Regrets

by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 18, 2025 | Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication, Stress & Burnout

Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...

Do Men Really Feel Emotions? The Truth About Men and Emotional Intelligence

by Dr. John Schinnerer | Apr 23, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Men's Mental Fitness, Relationships & Communication

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Let’s just call it out: the stereotype that men are less emotional than women? Total BS. The truth? We feel just as much—we’ve just been trained since kindergarten not to show it unless it involves a...
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