by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 12, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Relationships & Communication
You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jul 1, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
To my love: I’ve started and stopped writing this letter more times than I can count. Every time I try to find the words, I get scared—scared of saying too much, of being too much. But silence has only ever made the ache louder, and I don’t want to keep hiding what’s...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 24, 2025 | Identity & Meaning, Relationships & Communication
By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net My Dearest Love, There are words I should have spoken long ago—words buried in the quiet spaces between us. I know that in those silences, my emotional distance may have made you question your value. And...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | Jun 1, 2025 | Anger & Reactivity, Identity & Meaning, Men's Mental Fitness, Relationships & Communication, Self-Leadership & Inner Work
What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 28, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
The 10 Best Podcasts for Women in Their 30s and 40s (2026) Something shifts after 35. Maybe it’s the subtle (or not-so-subtle) realization that life is speeding up—or that you’ve been living parts of it on autopilot. Maybe your kids are growing, your relationships are...
by Dr. John Schinnerer | May 28, 2025 | Relationships & Communication
Top 10 Podcasts for Navigating Love and Relationships in 2025 (Without Losing Your Mind) Let’s be real: Love is beautiful, messy, confusing, exhilarating—and occasionally makes you want to hide under the covers until further notice. Whether you’re in a long-term...
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