How Can I Get My Husband to Consider Couples Counseling?

You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...
A Love Letter from an Avoidantly Attached Man: A Journey Toward Emotional Resilience and Secure Love

A Love Letter from an Avoidantly Attached Man: A Journey Toward Emotional Resilience and Secure Love

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net  My Dearest Love, There are words I should have spoken long ago—words buried in the quiet spaces between us. I know that in those silences, my emotional distance may have made you question your value. And...

How To Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally (And Help Them Relax About Yours)

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

Top 10 Podcasts for Navigating Love and Relationships in 2025

Top 10 Podcasts for Navigating Love and Relationships in 2025 (Without Losing Your Mind) Let’s be real: Love is beautiful, messy, confusing, exhilarating—and occasionally makes you want to hide under the covers until further notice. Whether you’re in a long-term...

The Top 10 Podcasts For Men Looking To Evolve

Top 10 Podcasts Every Man Should Be Listening To (Unless You Enjoy Being Emotionally Constipated) Or, The Top Podcasts for Men Let’s face it — your brain is a hot mess of thoughts, your emotional intelligence was last seen somewhere around 9th grade health class, and...

The Man Box (a.k.a. Why Men Are Emotionally Unavailable and What to Do About It)

Let’s talk about dudes. Manfolk. Bros. Gentlemen. Kings. Whatever you call yourself, chances are, if you were born with a Y chromosome and grew up on this planet, you got stuffed into The Man Box before you could spell “testosterone.” I’ve been working with men for...