How Do You Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally?

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

What Are the Best Podcasts for Love and Relationships in 2025?

Top 10 Podcasts for Navigating Love and Relationships in 2025 (Without Losing Your Mind) Let’s be real: Love is beautiful, messy, confusing, exhilarating—and occasionally makes you want to hide under the covers until further notice. Whether you’re in a long-term...

What Are Bids for Attention and Why Do They Matter in Relationships?

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

Why Is Anger Management So Hard for Men? A Science-Based Guide

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com |  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  Let’s cut to the truth—anger is killing your relationships, realtionships at work and at home, and in many cases, it’s doing so quietly and consistently. Unchecked anger is the...
Why Isn’t Love Enough for the Relationship You Want?

Why Isn’t Love Enough for the Relationship You Want?

This is the transcript from the first episode of Love Isn’t Enough, the new podcast from Joree Rose, LMFT and Dr. John Schinnerer. This podcast seeks to teach couples the skills, tools and awarenesses we need to feel safe and secure in relationship with the...