How Do You Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally?

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

What Is the Man Box and Why Does It Make Men Emotionally Unavailable?

Let’s talk about dudes. Manfolk. Bros. Gentlemen. Kings. Whatever you call yourself, chances are, if you were born with a Y chromosome and grew up on this planet, you got stuffed into The Man Box before you could spell “testosterone.” I’ve been working with men for...

What Do Older Men Wish They Knew by Age 30? 20+ Regrets

Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...

How Do You Get Your Husband to Go to Couples Therapy?

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Marriage Therapy Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net  GuideToSelf.com  “How can I get my husband to go to couples counseling?!” This is one of the most common questions I get as a couples therapist. Helping a husband get...

Why Is Ego Death a Worthy Goal for Personal Growth?

THE DEATH YOU NEED (BUT DON’T WANT): WHY YOUR EGO IS WRECKING YOUR LIFE AND HOW TO BURY IT Let’s talk about ego death. Yeah, I know—it sounds like some woo-woo nonsense touted by a bearded guy in a long linen robe at a Burning Man drum circle. But stick with me here,...

How Do Core Wounds Show Up in Your Relationship?

How To Navigate Your Core Wounds In Relationship Like An Expert Couples Counselor What’s the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds? Join top couples...