How Do Emotions Shape Your Life? What 50 Years of Research Shows

Dr. John Schinnerer  | GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | What if your emotional patterns at age 5 could predict your relationships, career trajectory, mental health, and even your lifespan? That’s not a punchline—it’s the insight at the...

How Do You Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally?

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

What Are Bids for Attention and Why Do They Matter in Relationships?

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

What Do Older Men Wish They Knew by Age 30? 20+ Regrets

Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...

What Is the Secret to a Happier Life? The Habit We Practice Least

By Dr. John Schinnerer   GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  Let’s be real—between the stress, annoyance, and collective burnout we’re all wading through, just about everyone could use a serious happiness upgrade. And here’s the upside:...

Why Is Ego Death a Worthy Goal for Personal Growth?

THE DEATH YOU NEED (BUT DON’T WANT): WHY YOUR EGO IS WRECKING YOUR LIFE AND HOW TO BURY IT Let’s talk about ego death. Yeah, I know—it sounds like some woo-woo nonsense touted by a bearded guy in a long linen robe at a Burning Man drum circle. But stick with me here,...