How Can I Get My Husband to Consider Couples Counseling?

You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...

Love Letter From An Anxiously Attached Lover

To my love: I’ve started and stopped writing this letter more times than I can count. Every time I try to find the words, I get scared—scared of saying too much, of being too much. But silence has only ever made the ache louder, and I don’t want to keep hiding what’s...

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

 The People Pleasing Trap (Part 3 of 3): Reclaiming Your Needs Without Feeling Like a Selfish Assh*le

By Dr. John Schinnerer  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | GuideToSelf.com | JoreeRose.com | MindfulnessAndTherapyCenter.com Alright, you beautiful recovering doormat—you made it to Part 3 of how to stop being a people pleaser. Gold star for you! In Part 1,...

Is Jealousy Killing Your Romantic Vibe?

Dr. John Schinnerer Jealousy in a relationship is like a smoke alarm—meant to signal danger, but sometimes it just goes off because you burned the toast. It’s not always about what’s actually happening; it’s often about fear, insecurity, or old emotional baggage...

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Couples Therapy

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Marriage Therapy Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net  GuideToSelf.com  “How can I get my husband to go to couples counseling?!” This is one of the most common questions I get as a couples therapist. Helping a husband get...