The People Pleasing Trap (Part 1 of 3): How to Stop Being Everyone’s Emotional Janitor

By Dr. John Schinnerer How to stop being a people pleaser! Let’s be real –: people pleasing is emotional self-sabotage disguised as kindness. You think you’re being generous. You think you’re the “good guy” (or girl). But underneath all that agreeable surface is...

20+ Huge Regrets Older Men Wish Everyone Knew By Age 30

Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...

Anger Management for Men: Why You’re Mad as Hell—and It’s Destroying Your Relationships

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com |  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  Let’s cut to the truth—anger is killing your relationships, realtionships at work and at home, and in many cases, it’s doing so quietly and consistently. Unchecked anger is the...

Is Jealousy Killing Your Romantic Vibe?

Dr. John Schinnerer Jealousy in a relationship is like a smoke alarm—meant to signal danger, but sometimes it just goes off because you burned the toast. It’s not always about what’s actually happening; it’s often about fear, insecurity, or old emotional baggage...

How Do I Survive My Divorce? Best Divorce Tips for Men in Divorce

By Dr. John Schinnerer I  survived a difficult divorce. I have eight years of training in mental health. I coach men in the best ways to survive divorce and thrive following divorce. So, in many ways, I am uniquely qualified to put forth some critical tips to help you...

What Does A Shrink Do When Feeling Depressed? Top Tips From A Psychologist Who’s Dealt With It

Dr. John Schinnerer, Guide To Self Depression is the world’s worst houseguest. It shows up uninvited, eats all your emotional snacks, drains your energy, steals what you once enjoyed and then whispers, “You’ll never feel better again, loser.” Oh, and it tries to...