Your Relationship Fights Aren’t About What You Think They Are

Your Relationship Fights Aren’t About What You Think They Are

One of the most common things we see in relationships isn’t a lack of love or commitment—it’s a lack of emotional literacy. Two people can care deeply about each other and still end up stuck in cycles of misunderstanding, distance, or conflict. Not because they’re...

How To Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally (And Help Them Relax About Yours)

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

The Man Box (a.k.a. Why Men Are Emotionally Unavailable and What to Do About It)

Let’s talk about dudes. Manfolk. Bros. Gentlemen. Kings. Whatever you call yourself, chances are, if you were born with a Y chromosome and grew up on this planet, you got stuffed into The Man Box before you could spell “testosterone.” I’ve been working with men for...

“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Per a Top Men’s Therapist

“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | LoveIsntEnough.net  You ever feel like you’re faking it? Like you’re showing up to the world in some Frankenstein...

Anger Management for Men: Why You’re Mad as Hell—and It’s Destroying Your Relationships

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com |  LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  Let’s cut to the truth—anger is killing your relationships, realtionships at work and at home, and in many cases, it’s doing so quietly and consistently. Unchecked anger is the...