How Can I Get My Husband to Consider Couples Counseling?

You Want to Feel Closer. He Just Wants to Avoid Feeling Attacked. You bring up couples counseling… He shuts down, changes the subject, or says, “We’re fine.” Sound familiar? If your bid for deeper connection is met with resistance, sarcasm, or silence—you are...

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Couples Therapy

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Marriage Therapy Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net  GuideToSelf.com  “How can I get my husband to go to couples counseling?!” This is one of the most common questions I get as a couples therapist. Helping a husband get...
Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts

Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts

Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts. Is It Any Wonder We’re Struggling With Shelter-In-Place? By Dr. John Schinnerer “My mind is a bad neighborhood that I try not to go into alone.” Anne Lamott Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be...

Man Box Culture Hurts Your Relationships As A Man

How does being raised in the Man Box Culture impact us as grown men in our relationships? There are a number of possible ways we are affected based on the unspoken rules we learn as boys. These rules are often handed down by the alpha male in our tribes, friends,...

How Men Are Socialized Damages Our Relationships

Dr. John Schinnerer It was the second half of the varsity high school soccer game. The game was tied 1-1. Play had just been stopped by the referee – injury timeout. I was laying on the ground, writhing in pain after having just been elbowed in the temple by a...
How to Empty Your Backpack of Anger

How to Empty Your Backpack of Anger

I got an email today from a woman whose husband is estranged from their daughter. The daughter is demanding that he take anger management classes before he can see the grandchildren. Here is part of my response… Thank you for sharing your story with me. I know how...