How To Take Other People’s Moods Less Personally (And Help Them Relax About Yours)

What’s the biggest gift you can give your loved ones? Help them to take your bad moods less personally. Thirty years ago, the wisest professor I had at UC Berkeley, Meji Singh, dropped this truth bomb on me: “John, we make the mistake of taking 95% of what other...

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner

Bids for Attention: How to Not Emotionally Ghost Your Partner (and End Up Lonely with a Dog That Judges You) By Dr. John Schinnerer, your friendly neighborhood shrink and emotional survival guide GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com   ...

“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Per a Top Men’s Therapist

“Dude, Take Off the Mask” — Authentic Masculinity and the Secret Every Man’s Hiding Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com | LoveIsntEnough.net  You ever feel like you’re faking it? Like you’re showing up to the world in some Frankenstein...

 The People Pleasing Trap (Part 1 of 3): How to Stop Being Everyone’s Emotional Janitor

By Dr. John Schinnerer How to stop being a people pleaser! Let’s be real –: people pleasing is emotional self-sabotage disguised as kindness. You think you’re being generous. You think you’re the “good guy” (or girl). But underneath all that agreeable surface is...

20+ Huge Regrets Older Men Wish Everyone Knew By Age 30

Old Dudes. Big Regrets. Savage Wisdom Every Young Man Needs to Hear. I’m a big fan of asking our elders the good stuff. Not just “what was gas priced at?” kind of stuff. I mean real, soul-level, holy-crap-why-didn’t-someone-tell-me-this kind of stuff. Partly,...

Men and Emotions: Are We Really the Stone-Cold Robots Everyone Thinks We Are?  

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Let’s just call it out: the stereotype that men are less emotional than women? Total BS. The truth? We feel just as much—we’ve just been trained since kindergarten not to show it unless it involves a...