Is Jealousy Killing Your Romantic Vibe?

Dr. John Schinnerer Jealousy in a relationship is like a smoke alarm—meant to signal danger, but sometimes it just goes off because you burned the toast. It’s not always about what’s actually happening; it’s often about fear, insecurity, or old emotional baggage...

How Do I Survive My Divorce? Best Divorce Tips for Men in Divorce

By Dr. John Schinnerer I  survived a difficult divorce. I have eight years of training in mental health. I coach men in the best ways to survive divorce and thrive following divorce. So, in many ways, I am uniquely qualified to put forth some critical tips to help you...

What Does A Shrink Do When Feeling Depressed? Top Tips From A Psychologist Who’s Dealt With It

Dr. John Schinnerer, Guide To Self Depression is the world’s worst houseguest. It shows up uninvited, eats all your emotional snacks, drains your energy, steals what you once enjoyed and then whispers, “You’ll never feel better again, loser.” Oh, and it tries to...

Anger Is Wrecking Your Life (And Your Arteries). Here’s What to Do About It 

By Dr. John Schinnerer GuideToSelf.com  | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  | LoveIsntEnough.net Let’s not sugarcoat it — life gives us all plenty of reasons to lose our sh*t. Someone cuts you off in traffic. Your kid wipes peanut butter on your suede jacket. The barista spells...

Men and Emotions: Are We Really the Stone-Cold Robots Everyone Thinks We Are?  

By Dr. John Schinnerer | GuideToSelf.com | TheEvolvedCaveman.com Let’s just call it out: the stereotype that men are less emotional than women? Total BS. The truth? We feel just as much—we’ve just been trained since kindergarten not to show it unless it involves a...

The Top Secret to a Happier Life?  Hint: It’s the Habit We Practice the Least

By Dr. John Schinnerer   GuideToSelf.com | LoveIsntEnough.net | TheEvolvedCaveman.com  Let’s be real—between the stress, annoyance, and collective burnout we’re all wading through, just about everyone could use a serious happiness upgrade. And here’s the upside:...

People-Pleasing Is Killing Your Sex Life (And Your Relationship). Here’s How to Stop

By Dr. John Schinnerer GuideToSelf.com LoveIsntEnough.net Let’s get real for a second: many of us—especially the chronic overachievers and conflict-avoiders—suck at setting boundaries. We say “yes” when we mean “no way,” all in the name of being liked, loved, or at...

Awarded Best Executive Coach Of The Year – Dr. John Schinnerer

Voted Best Executive Coach in Danville — Dr. John Schinnerer Big thanks to everyone who voted! Dr. John Schinnerer of Guide to Self was honored as Best Executive Coach in Danville. Your support means the world. Want to work with Dr. John? Visit his High Performer Shop...

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Couples Therapy

How To Get Your Husband To Go To Marriage Therapy Dr. John Schinnerer LoveIsntEnough.net  GuideToSelf.com  “How can I get my husband to go to couples counseling?!” This is one of the most common questions I get as a couples therapist. Helping a husband get...

Why Ego Death Is A Worthy Goal

THE DEATH YOU NEED (BUT DON’T WANT): WHY YOUR EGO IS WRECKING YOUR LIFE AND HOW TO BURY IT Let’s talk about ego death. Yeah, I know—it sounds like some woo-woo nonsense touted by a bearded guy in a long linen robe at a Burning Man drum circle. But stick with me here,...

Navigating Core Wounds In Relationship

How To Navigate Your Core Wounds In Relationship Like An Expert Couples Counselor What’s the best way to strengthen your connection in your romantic relationship and navigate through the complexities of your deepest core emotional wounds? Join top couples...
Why Love Isn’t Enough For The Relationship You Want & Deserve

Why Love Isn’t Enough For The Relationship You Want & Deserve

This is the transcript from the first episode of Love Isn’t Enough, the new podcast from Joree Rose, LMFT and Dr. John Schinnerer. This podcast seeks to teach couples the skills, tools and awarenesses we need to feel safe and secure in relationship with the...
Embracing Growth in Relationships: A Journey Beyond Love

Embracing Growth in Relationships: A Journey Beyond Love

Hello, courageous readers. It’s Dr. John Schinnerer here, and I’m thrilled to share insights from our latest episode of the Evolved Caveman podcast with the remarkable Joree Rose. Today, we’re delving deep into the intricacies of relationships and...

How To Manage High Stress & Exhaustion (Or Why Your Productivity Sucks Right Now!)

By Dr. John Schinnerer (Note: There are free audio meditation files down below in this article. Just click on the link to get yours.) A client of mine went through a brutal divorce recently. His wife dragged them into litigation for three years, at a cost of over...
Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts

Men Would Rather Shock Themselves Than Be Alone With Their Thoughts

Announcement: Keep Your Eyes Peeled For Dr. John’s Virtual Summit – Surviving to Thriving During The Pandemic. Experts are coming together to give you the best tips and tools in the areas of leadership, relationships, parenting, anxiety, sex & dating,...

Tragedy masks the opportunity for growth

Tragedy masks the opportunity for growth. The surest way out of untenable situations is to change your perspective and view your situation as a #challenge to to which you are meant to rise. Challenge yourself by asking,”What am I supposed to learn from this?“ Your...

Best Executive Coach of The Year – Dr. John Schinnerer

Dr. John Schinnerer (Guide To Self) was recently voted Best Executive Coach in Danville for 2020. Thank you so much for your continued support and encouragement. Please listen to Dr. John’s new podcast, The Evolved Caveman, found on every podcasting platform...

On Becoming A Happy AND Successful Man

Dr. John Schinnerer Executive Summary: A recent study (The Harry’s Masculinity Report, USA) looked at which factors are the most important for wellbeing and happiness for American men. Answers from 5,000 men indicate that happiness is predicated on the following (in...

Man Box Culture Hurts Your Relationships As A Man

How does being raised in the Man Box Culture impact us as grown men in our relationships? There are a number of possible ways we are affected based on the unspoken rules we learn as boys. These rules are often handed down by the alpha male in our tribes, friends,...

How Men Are Socialized Damages Our Relationships

Dr. John Schinnerer It was the second half of the varsity high school soccer game. The game was tied 1-1. Play had just been stopped by the referee – injury timeout. I was laying on the ground, writhing in pain after having just been elbowed in the temple by a...

How to Reduce Anger – Interview with Dr. John Schinnerer

Here it is – the worldwide release of the much-anticipated interview of anger management expert, Dr. John Schinnerer, by Paul Averill of the ManBits Podcast. Just click below to listen! And if you need more help with anger, irritability and possibly depression,...
An Easy and Powerful Tool to Save Your Marriage

An Easy and Powerful Tool to Save Your Marriage

Dr. John Schinnerer What if I were to tell you there are secrets, scientifically proven tools, that will help strengthen your marriage? Would you be interested? As it happens, there are proven tools that you can learn to improve your marriage. And this same tool, that...

8 Surprising Books That Will Help You Win at The Game of Life

I love to read. I read – a lot. As a result, many people ask me “What should I read?” And, truly, it’s a tough question. Where are you at now? Where would you like to go? What are you trying to accomplish? Become happier? Build a business?...
How To Let Go of Anger Like a Hot Coal – An Anger Management Expert’s Top 5 Tools to Turn Down Anger

How To Let Go of Anger Like a Hot Coal – An Anger Management Expert’s Top 5 Tools to Turn Down Anger

  “I am right, damnit. I am right and she will know it before I am done.” Your energy surges. You feel powerful, justified, electric. Your mind quickly calculates every argument to defend your position and undermine hers. Blood rushes to your fists to prepare you...

Manage STRESS Once and For All

Dr. John shares the latest and best tools to turn down the volume on stress – new ways to think about stress, tools to interpret stress more productively, 2 different types of stress, and how to deal with it when it arises. For more of the latest info on how to...
Dr. John Quoted in Article on Anger in U.S. News and World Report

Dr. John Quoted in Article on Anger in U.S. News and World Report

Dr. John was honored and humbled to be included extensively in an article on anger and health in U.S. News and World Report by Michael Schroeder. Here is a link to the article on the U.S. News site…...
Top 3 Ways to Handle Anger in a Relationship

Top 3 Ways to Handle Anger in a Relationship

By Dr. John Schinnerer Guide To Self.com  How do you best deal with your anger? And what happens when those methods don’t work? Some of the traditional tools for processing anger include exercise, yoga, mindfulness or breathing deeply. These are classic tools to deal...
24% of girls are depressed at age 14, 9% of boys, new study

24% of girls are depressed at age 14, 9% of boys, new study

  From ScienceDaily.com September 21, 2017   Summary: New research from University of Liverpool reports that a quarter of girls (24%) and one in 10 boys (9%) are depressed at age 14.   Researchers from the University of Liverpool and University College...
Want More Happiness? Learn to Think Less! 

Want More Happiness? Learn to Think Less! 

Dr. John Schinnerer GuideToSelf.com. WebAngerManagement.com My parents were really big on academics. I learned to do well in school as a child in an attempt to make my parents proud. Along the way, I learned to think.  I became very good at thinking. By the 7th grade,...

Manage Your Anger with Mindfulness

Manage Your Anger with Mindfulness Anger is a normal, human feeling. Anger, in and of itself, is not destructive. Anger serves us. It demands our attention when our health is in danger, when a boundary has been crossed, or when someone takes advantage of us....

Anger and Stress Hurt the Heart

Frequent Anger and Stress Damage Your Heart So We Must Learn Methods to Manage Them   I recently received this email from a man in my online anger management class… ‘Dear Dr. John: Your online anger management class has been extremely  helpful to me. The...

Twenty Surprising Habits of Successful Executives

Clients frequently ask me about the daily habits of successful C-level executives. “What skills can I learn to be more productive and happy?”, they ask. So, based on 20 years of coaching top executives and intellectuals, here is my list of the most compelling habits...

Online Dating & Protecting Yourself From Your Own High Empathy

Since my divorce, I have become increasingly curious about dating and relationships.  What types of men are most successful in landing first dates? What types of men are most successful in maintaining successful relationships?   And what can we learn from both? I talk...

Angry employees more likely to behave unethically and hurt bottom line

Most people would agree angry employees are bad for business. But why? A new study from UA’s Eller College of Management reports that angry workers are more likely to behave unethically more often. While guilty workers tend to act more ethically. So when hiring...

Discover a Powerful Happiness Habit from Improv Comedy

By Dr. John Schinnerer Don’t you love comedy? I love stand-up comedy. There are few better feelings than laughing until your sides ache.  My appreciation for improv has grown over the past several years, especially after seeing live improv at the local high school.  I...

Among NCAA student athletes, depression rate is 24%

From the study abstract… There are approximately 400,000 National Collegiate Athletic Association (NCAA) student athletes and 5 – 7 million high school student athletes competing each year. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, the...

The Sound of Your Voice Impacts Your Mood – New Research

The sound of you voice impacts your mood January 11, 2016 Have you ever listened to a depressed person speak? Monotone. Slow paced. Lacking confidence. No excitement or urgency. Now imagine the voice of a happy person – faster rate, higher pitch, excited, and...

What Are Effective Treatments for Each Type of Anxiety?

Effective Treatments for Every Type of Anxiety How Can I Get Rid of Anxiety? Millions of people are searching for an answer to this very question. If you are one of them, you are in the right place! A certain degree of anxiety and worry is normal and even helpful....

How Can I Get Rid of Anxiety? Top Scientifically-Proven Tools to Alleviate Anxiety

How Can I Get Rid of Anxiety? Top Tips to Get Rid of Anxiety Dr. John Schinnerer Many clients have asked me ‘How can I get rid of anxiety?’ It’s a question that burns within everyone who has dealt with panic attacks or sporadic anxiety. Anxiety is painful and...

Dr. John Schinnerer Adds Depth to Pixar’s Inside Out

Dr. John Schinnerer provided expert consultation to Pixar’s new hit, Inside Out. Dr. John Schinnerer Added Scientific Advice to Inside Out When UC Berkeley-trained educational psychologist, Dr. John Schinnerer, attended the premiere of the record-breaking Pixar...

Chronic Stress Is Wrecking Your Life (And Your Relationships)—Here’s How to Stop It

Let’s talk about something we all deal with but most of us don’t manage well: chronic stress. You know, that constant, low-grade tension that never really goes away? The feeling that you’ve got 87 tabs open in your brain, and every time you close one, three more pop...

The Top 20 Habits of Successful, Resilient People

Clients frequently ask me about the daily habits of gritty, resilient individuals. “What skills can I learn to be more resilient and successful?”, they ask. So here it is – the list of the top 20 habits for success, resiliency and happiness… Practice Gratitude....